Imagine yourself going to the park to meet the person you think of when the word romance pops
up. To get there, you have to walk quite a bit, but you are excited. If you live in an area with
traffic lights, you probably understand how they work almost instinctively. You feel safe because
you know all the rules: You wait your turn, watch for the signal to walk, and generally, everyone
else cooperates in this silent agreement.
So here's a fun twist for you. I'm going to take what guides you, many vehicles, and strangers to
pass safely off each other, and apply it to navigating the sometimes chaotic world of
relationships. It may seem like a stretch, but stick with me; it's about gaining the confidence to
manage your romantic journey with a few universal signals in mind.
Green Light: You're the Star of Their Show
When you hit a green light in dating, it's all systems go. This is when someone makes you feel
like you're the main act, not just a supporting character in your own life story. They remember
your favorite bands, know your favorite smoothie and are enthusiastic listeners of your
interesting dreams. It's that awesome feeling when someone sees the real you and still thinks
you're the best thing since sliced bread.
Yellow Light: Time to Slow Down
The yellow light is a bit tricky. It's when things start to feel like this, whatever this is, is moving
too fast, too soon. It's exciting, sure, but it's also a moment to pause and think, "Am I ready for
all this?" This isn't about slamming on the brakes; it's about ensuring you're both comfortable
with the pace of how intertwined you are becoming. It's like watching a series you enjoy
and deciding to savor it, rather than rushing to see how it ends.
Red Light: Time for a Heart-to-Heart With Yourself
Encountering a red light is your cue to stop and reflect, especially if your emotions are more
intense than what you can handle. If you're feeling overwhelmingly sad or anxious frequently, 11
out of 10 times it indicates something is off balance. That’s the red light flashing, and you should
listen to it. So, be honest and answer these questions: Are your needs being met? Are you
respecting your boundaries?
It's crucial to address these feelings before deciding on your next move.
Cruising Through the Dating Scene
Ultimately, dating is a gift, showering us with not only good times and cherished memories but
also invaluable lessons. In moments when we might feel powerless over another's actions, it's
crucial to remember the power we hold within—to observe the signals, to reflect, and to
remember our safety comes first. So, keep an eye on the lights, trust your instincts, and
remember, that the journey is as important as the destination.
